I need to say more about this.
Some people, like me, are hard wired to attempt to save others from their predicaments. And there are countless awful and apparently-impossible-to-remedy predicaments we all find ourselves in, so the task is truly endless.
To the degree that my mission is to save others, I am constantly busy, if not in actuality, in my mind, trying to figure out solutions for everyone’s problems.
This is may be exhausting and debilitating, but also serves to make me feel stronger, and more capable than I really am, because, as the savior, I can hide how much, deep down, I want saving myself. This may be very buried as it doesn’t really suit my self image to admit it. And we seem to have the most extraordinary capacity to not see what we don’t want to see about ourselves (even when it is obvious to everyone else!)
The activity saves me from feeling how lost, lonely, inadequate and desperate I feel myself, in fact I rarely need to touch this. It also saves me from feeling the peace, relaxation and ease of being which goes hand in hand with facing feelings I have spent a life time avoiding.
And it prevents me from realizing a deeper calling, which is to live as love.
So when I say, nobody needs saving, I am not suggesting a cold indifference to the suffering of others. Not remotely.
I am calling to my own heart, and yours, I am calling for a deeper realization of love, which is endlessly called to respond to itself and everything. Which wants nothing other than to give of itself to every human being, every creature, every situation, without agenda, without knowing how to do that, or what the result may be. And is not convinced in any way of being indispensible to the flow of life, because it is not separate from life, but simply alive. And has no fear of crisis in myself or others, recognising it as part of a necessary process of revelation. It has no separate compartments for ‘your needs’, ‘my needs’ or ‘the world’s needs’, but more an intuitive sensing of ‘what’s needed?’ which includes it all. And the movement towards that, happens within a flow which is already free, already whole, not dependent on results but responsive to life. And it includes a willingness to feel every feeling from the fear, confusion, bewilderment, emptiness and anger to the joy, wonder, compassion and hilarity (and everything in between) which this extraordinary existence offers to us.
6 thoughts on “Nobody Needs Saving (2)”
Hi lovely Fanny, so touching to read this and I love that you’re deepening into the enquiry that people don’t need saving, but that we can live life as love. Feeling this very deeply just now.
Me again. There’s also a poignancy that the recent series of posts goes….nobody needs saving, meeting death, and nobody needs saving. Meeting death is sandwiched between the two. I love that, feels so apposite.
thank you so much for your comments Karen, it is always lovely to feel responses to what i write. x
Beautiful, awesome, intimate, wonderful!
thank you Drew! lots of love to you…
This is beautifully expressed, Fan, and crystal clear. We sort of talked about this in relation to what we were saying about the love between one human being and another being enough to sustain us all. Recognition and acceptance are the initial barriers and then the way in.